During supper last night until early this morning, I was having a chat with my friend over a plate of Nasi Lemak. We were talking about our past relationships and dates and the topic reached that of our role in the relationship.
They say that there’s the ‘active‘ and ‘passive‘ one in the relationship. The active one apparently doing ‘more’ in the relationship or in a sense, gives ‘more’. While the passive one is more towards the receiving end.
I think I can classify myself as the ‘active’ one. In my past relationships, I feel as if I have given more. My friend on the other hand is definitely ‘passive’. It is pretty obvious with the way that he behaves and he did tell me that he was.
However, who is to judge who is active and who is passive?
Is it our own self? Because we may be thinking that we are active in the relationship but the partner thinks otherwise and vice versa.
Is it others outside the relationship (i.e. our friends)? But there may always be the problem of bias and they would not know what happens exactly in the relationship. Hmm.
Another ‘role’ that I am quite bewildered with is this ‘top’ and ‘bottom’ classification. Yes, it entails much more than sexual preference but does it actually have to be a ‘requirement’ in finding the special someone? Hmm. That was what the two of us where discussing last night.
I know my thoughts are rather incoherent but what do you guys think? Enlighten me! =S
